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j p lundstrom wrote:

Not only was I inundated with remarks I know were meant to be helpful, I didn't understand what the remarks meant!

Ooh, I just reread your response, and thought I would bring this out:  You are right!  When I first joined in 2008, someone told me I had changed POVs.  I had no clue what a POV was and had to look it up!  This is what I mean.  People who are new to writing don't always know what the comments mean or why their reviewer said what they did because they just don't know the ins and outs of all the rules of writing.  This site is for learning.

You hit the nail on the head, JP.  This is what I mean.  Don't just tell me I switched POV, show me how I did it and why I shouldn't do it again.  That's how you learn!  I know what a POV is now, thanks to this site, but to the new writers on here a review can be daunting!

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j p lundstrom wrote:

Are you talking to me? I hope not--I do get carried away at times. Sometimes there's just so much you want to say, you'd like to sit down side-by-side with the writer and explain things. Didn't we used to have a forum for that on the old site?

LOL, JP, you never even crossed my mind!  You've done reviews for me and you are so very kind all the time!  No, the reviews I read this morning that pissed me off were not reviews for my own personal work.  They were for other writers on here.  Just too much for me to let slide by without saying something about it. 

Cheers to you, friend!

MJ

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When I was a child, my mother always said, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

This morning I read reviews given by some reviewers on here, not on MY work, but on the writing of others, and I am appalled at how cruel some of you can be.  Is that necessary?  Seriously?  There is a difference between 'constructive' criticism and downright meanness.  Kind, constructive words should show the correct way, not criticize for it not being correctly written. 

The best way for you to discourage someone, especially a new writer, is to be mean with your reviews.  There were more than a few I read, and I couldn't believe some of them.  Telling a person they don't know how to create a sentence, or how to write a paragraph, or how to do punctuation is not only cruel, but unnecessary.  They wouldn't be here if they knew everything.  This site is for learning, and whether you believe it not, you don't know everything either.  Not everyone writes the same way you do.  Not everyone knows all the rules to abide by when it comes to the art of writing.  They are here to learn, else their work would be in the best-sellers list at Barnes & Noble, and so would yours. 

I am not pointing fingers, but you know who you are.  I am asking you to take my mother's advice.  If you don't like what you're reading, don't be mean about it.  Close it and go to something else.  You do not have the last word on someone else's hard work.  Don't try to rewrite what they've written unless they ask you to. I am taking up for those who have been too kind in their replies to your sarcasm and hurtful words.

I rest my case.

MJ

I challenge Ann Everett to take this on!  Both of you write with such quirkiness and wit that I think I may be hard-pressed to figure out who wrote what!!

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I agree with Vern.  I have a friend who wants to read everything I write, and occasionally she will say, "This doesn't sound like your voice at all.  I don't care for this one because ...."  It happens.  I would definitely speak to him in person about all that you've mentioned and let him decide if he wants you to offer up your review for the world to see. My friend's honesty has made me a better writer.

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Thanks for all the kind remarks, and thanks to Sol for such a fun contest!  There were many worthy stories submitted, and it surprised me to find one of mine chosen as a runner-up.  Congrats to Seabrass and to graymartin, too.  I'm glad I wasn't a judge because that would have been a tough task.  I am looking forward to the next picture contest.  It's always fun to see how many different angles one picture can evoke. 

MJ

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orange smoke

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Very, very, biggly terrible.

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hysterical

I'm curious to know if anyone had a childhood dream that didn't come true until much later in life.  I'd like to hear about yours.

I will start it off by telling my story.

When I was seven or eight, I was 'horse crazy.'  (Still am!)  I came from a poor farm family, but more than anything else I wanted a black Shetland pony with a long and shaggy black mane and tail.  I remember telling Santa what I wanted that year, my first time ever sitting on his lap, but I was desperate.

I was the youngest of five children and the only girl.  My father was a sharecropper and we lived in a converted chicken coop with one bedroom, a kitchen, and a living room.  We had an outhouse for a toilet.  My father farmed the land, and we raised cows and chickens for milk, eggs, and meat.  No way 'Santa' would ever consent to us owning an animal we couldn't eat, especially one that required hay and grain, not to mention we had no money to buy a pony.  Needless to say, Santa brought me a stocking filled with apples, oranges, and peppermint sticks, but no pony that year.

The years went by and we moved from the converted chicken coop into a house with three bedrooms and an indoor toilet, our first ever.  We had five acres of land my dad farmed and we again had farm animals, but no black pony.

More years went by.  I finished school and college, married, and had a child of my own.  My husband and I had no room for a pony, but I never stopped thinking about that black one.

Twenty-one years ago we bought a thirty-acre farm.  Did I get that black pony?  No.  We were both too busy with life.  Yes, we had the land and I still dreamed about that pony I so desperately wanted, but it just didn't happen.

I've always been an animal rights activist, so in 2005 I decided to take in an abused horse that someone had almost starved to death.  I nursed him back to health and watched him flourish.  One equine led to another, to another.  Still no black pony, but a stable full of horses that were in need of a safe harbor to call their own.  We decided to open our farm and become a certified Animal Sanctuary.

Then it happened.  Since we are registered in the state of Georgia as an animal rescue, I got a call in 2015 from the Dept. of Agriculture asking if I could take in an abused pony.  Without even asking the color, I said yes.  Lo and behold, as soon as the trailer door opened, out stepped the most gorgeous black Shetland pony I'd ever seen, long flowing mane and tale.  Neglected and in need of tender loving care, I nursed that sweet girl back to health, and there she was.  My dream came true.  It took over fifty years for it to happen, but it did. 

She's everything I dreamed of and more.  Her name is Fancy, fitting for such a prim and proper little lady.  Trust me, she was worth the wait!

Has anyone else here sent anything to this publisher?  How did it go?

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London Fog

Well, my goodness, Bill.  Did they tell you why?  Something like, "Somebody licked the red off my candy and I don't want to read submissions tonight."  Or "I can only do two things today, and you're not one of them."  Surely such a quick rejection requires at least a 'how come?"  You spent a lot of time jumping through their hoops to submit it according to their requirements.  I would think they would let you down easy. 

MJ

Bill, the way I do it is click on Home, then click on In-Line Reviews, then In-Line Reviews Given.  There it shows me the drafts I have started.  Click on the name of the chapter, and it SHOULD pull your draft up.  At least that's how it all works for me.  Good luck!

MJ

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Welcome, David!  You will learn a lot here.  Be prepared for both praise and constructive criticism.  You will learn from both!  Glad to have you onboard.

Happy tales to you,
MJ

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darn rabbit

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Chai-na

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"Very, very, very biggly good."

Great news, Randall!  So proud to know you!  I know those 5-star reviews are well deserved!

MJ

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And all this time I just thought I was an ass.  (LOL)

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Amen.  (Tweedle-dee-dee, tweedle-dee-dumb)

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I hope so.

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Hi, Karen,
Welcome.  You will learn a lot here and receive many thoughts, opinions, and suggestions.  This site helped me more than any other.  Lots of good advice to be had here.  The one thing I would suggest is when you post your first chapter or story or poem, make sure to post it in a group that pays points to the reviewer, like the Premium group.  If you're not a member of it yet, may I suggest you join that one before you post.  You will get more reviewers if they get points for their review, which they will use to post their next piece. 

Other than that, enjoy yourself, remember the suggestions you receive are just that--suggestions.  Feel free to use them or toss them. 

Looking forward to reading some of your work!

Peace to you,
MJ

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horse poop

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Funny you should ask because I was just thinking about this today.  For me, I write in my head all day long.  Most of my "head" writing doesn't ever make it to paper, but I play out different scenes in my brain as I go about my daily activities.

For me to actually sit and type, I need to be alone with no one talking to me.  I can have something playing in the background...TV usually, but not something I have to be following.  The actual typing part is always done inside.  My ideal situation for writing is inside, HGTV droning in the background, starting around 11PM, and writing for three or four hours, cat sleeping on top of my desk.

As strange as it sounds, I cannot write a story until I have a title.  When I first started my western novel called Two Roads to Sunday, I built the story around the title.  Sunday is the name of a fictitious 1870s town in New Mexico.  Same thing with Patty Jean.  There were simply thousands of titles for that particular one, but until I firmly decided on the simplicity of 'Patty Jean,' I couldn't write the first word.  Most people write their story and then come up with the title.  I'm just weird like that.  LOL!