Topic: I need to rant

I need input from romantics. Am I just out of the loop?

I got married in 1982 (Divorced in 2003, but that's a story for another day.). I had two wedding (bridal) showers, one given by the ladies in my church and one given by a friend, and one lingerie shower. I registered my fine china, my silverware, my crystal, and my everyday dishes. Toaster and the like were just expected.

So, can y'all tell me what the hell a couple's shower is all about and when did a bridal shower only apply to the bride's side? And a couple's shower is for the groom's side? Not to mention they have registered every damned item you can think of, maybe even down to toothpicks.  Seriously, something like 600 items.

Am I totally nuts or are my future daughter-in-law and her mother the kooks?

Wedding colors turquoise and pink with green piping. I found a lovely green (same shade as the piping) satin dress only to be told that HER mother had decided that the mothers (my son's stepmom included) would be wearing neutral colors, you know like "burlap." I swear to God, I almost got some burlap to make a frigging dress. But no. I went and found a very nice tan dress accessorized with turquoise shoes and brown and turquoise jewelry. just to discover the bride's mother has now purchased a light blue dress.

I am so damned ready for this farce to be over. May 14!!!! Outdoor wedding at 5:30 p.m.

The bride will have 8 attendants, and those bridesmaids' dresses are hideous--very unflattering. The top is beige crocheted looking stuff with just gathered from there down in a variegated aqua/turquoise--and the girls are wearing what looks like crochet flip-flops. I haven't even seen the bride's frock.
The groomsmen are to wear dress pants and white shirts with suspenders and black Converses.

Oh, and honeymoon at Disney World.

AND NOW! Another son is officially engaged. Sept. 30., outdoor wedding, 6 p.m. Okay. I don't think this girl is quite as spoiled as the first fiancee. I've already been dress shopping with her, her mother, and her matron of honor (Her older sister). She found a lovely strapless long white dress with little embroidered silver flowers sprinkled throughout the skirt. Her color scheme is coral and mint green. I already found my outfit of a heavy pleated silk pants set in peach to accessorize with the darker coral shoes and jewelry. She thinks it's perfect.

They are thinking honeymoon in Jamaica.

Well, at least I'll have two RN's in the family.

Notice, that I'm ranting here and not on Facebook b/c I just need input and I don't want to piss off the brides.

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I have heard of a "couple's shower" as being a bridal show but where the groom, his attendants, and other men also attend. I have never been to one, but from what I've seen, it is a big cocktail party where everyone can let loose. Personally, after an engagement party, bachelor and bachelorette parities, and looking forward to the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception, I'm not sure why people need another excuse to play loud music, eat cheep food, and drink too much alcohol. And if the bride's or groom's family or the maid of honor is hosting it, then it is a needless extra strain on wallets that are already having to dish out for everything else. But to each his (or her or their) own.

Please don't let your daughter's-in-law bridezilla (or her mother's momzilla) transformation bother you. Buy that lovely green dress you want to wear. And if you can, take back the tan one. And try really hard not to laugh at the bride's maids' foot wear. smile

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Oh! I forgot to mention that the rehearsal is a 9 a.m. the day of the wedding. If we leave the venue, we need to be back by 2:30 for pictures.

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Janet Taylor-Perry wrote:

Oh! I forgot to mention that the rehearsal is a 9 a.m. the day of the wedding. If we leave the venue, we need to be back by 2:30 for pictures.

Wow.

I know that traditions aren't everything but seriously that makes no sense.

There are always last minute preps that need to be done and people will be more nervous awaiting until just a few hours before the wedding to find out what they are supposed to do.

Well I guess they will save money not having a rehearsal dinner...

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Her sister is making breakfast!

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Janet Taylor-Perry wrote:

Her sister is making breakfast!

I feel really bad for her sister then... Having to cook for a bridezilla... Not pleasant...

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Couples are just NOT into traditional weddings anymore.  I remember when I had a small photography studio in another lifetime, the craziest thing a couple asked for was several black and white pictures in the snow.  They turned out beautifully but everything else was VERY traditional. Whole new generation!

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Janet Taylor-Perry wrote:

Oh! I forgot to mention that the rehearsal is a 9 a.m. the day of the wedding. If we leave the venue, we need to be back by 2:30 for pictures.

Just when you think it can't get worst! Seriously?! I don't get it, so you have to hang around for hours after rehearsal is done?

So basically all the women need to be bland so that mother of the bride can sparkle?! F#ck that shit, I'm also wearing what I want thank you very much. So should you and just say oops, didn't get the memo. Take that tan thing back and sparkle!

Crochet tops and flip flops? I want pictures of this Janet! Seeing is believing. I have no words for this one ...

No, you're spot on. You seem to be the only sane one around! And good luck! If it makes you feel any better, this isn't so unique. I've heard plenty of stories where parents were told to wear X and the one that insisted then rocks up in Y.

I can tell you about my own wedding, but I'd rather forget and just focus on the end result - having the husband I have.

As long as your son is happy, that's all that matters!

Now, breathe in, breathe out ...

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Rebecca Vaughn wrote:
Janet Taylor-Perry wrote:

Her sister is making breakfast!

I feel really bad for her sister then... Having to cook for a bridezilla... Not pleasant...

For how many people? I love my sister, but I would've told her what she can do with the bacon and eggs ..... And me cooking them ain't an option!

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Maybe we should change the group name?! smile wink

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Nah! Just kidding. Should be expected from a passionate lot like us! smile

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Janet:

Feel free to rant; a wedding is totally stressful, won't even go into what happened at mine.  And not to capitalize on your stress, but my character goes through a wedding disaster of all wedding disasters toward the end of my first book, and now you have given me grist for how to make it even worse.  lol  Sorry, but that's what happens when you rant on a writer's forum, instead of Facebook.  lol

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rhiannon wrote:

Janet:

Feel free to rant; a wedding is totally stressful, won't even go into what happened at mine.  And not to capitalize on your stress, but my character goes through a wedding disaster of all wedding disasters toward the end of my first book, and now you have given me grist for how to make it even worse.  lol  Sorry, but that's what happens when you rant on a writer's forum, instead of Facebook.  lol

All comments are fair writer fodder! Use away! I have a chapter in my memoir I'm working on entitled "Burlap."

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I have a wedding disaster in mine as well!  Not all weddings are happy!!!! Keep ranting! :-)

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OMG! I'm back. They did not even include my ex's name & my name on the invitation. How the hell are our friends/family, some of whom we haven't seen in years, even going to know who Caleb is?

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Sharing the NOT burlappy dress.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid … mp;theater

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid … mp;theater

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Nice! Love the lime on you! So happy for your son!