#101 03-01-2007 10:30:30
Re: Rudeness in Reviews
barry n davidson wrote:
My cat was named b**ch. I'll tell ya the story behind that some time.
Make it into a short story. That should be an interesting read!
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#102 03-01-2007 12:48:35
- J.L. Denney
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Re: Rudeness in Reviews
I hate it when Sol takes my responses away....
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#103 09-10-2008 14:35:46
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It is a though job to be objective when reviewing, it is tougher still when you see a glimmer of a promise in what, let's be sincere, you wouldn't read in any other place or site but here.
The question for me its whether a writer will accept a though review, one that will probably sound harsh, or callous but that is not in reality. Do we have to step lightly while we review a work that could be better by pointing out the myriad of problems that we see? Would the writer appreciate it if we tell them for instance that the idea of the story is great but the characters are completely wrong?
Tough reviews can sometimes help more than vanilla covered ones. At least they have in my case. And the act and time taken to review the piece is the same.
I don't speak english that well, My native language is spanish. I can't review the grammar, but I can talk about the story and the characters and some people hate that because it touches a deeper vein that just grammar.
I for once, prefer a review that tells me that I'm losing my time with a story or a story arc, or even a character. We are posting our stories for people we don't even know to see, read and review, that alone shows a level of commitment to our craft. Rejection and tough reviews are part of the process and we should welcome it.
It doesn't mean we have to bash stories just for the heck of it, but if we see the promise of something that is being derailed by the author. I think the honest thing to do is to tell them they are screwing up so they can get better.
My two cents.
Saludos!
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#104 09-10-2008 15:17:00
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dracognan wrote:
It is a (though) [tough] job to be objective when reviewing, it is tougher still when you see a glimmer of a promise in what, let's be sincere, you wouldn't read in any other place or site but here...The question for me its whether a writer will accept a th[or]ough review, one that will probably sound harsh, or callous but that is not in reality. Do we have to step lightly while we review a work that could be better by pointing out the myriad of problems that we see?...It doesn't mean we have to bash stories just for the heck of it, but if we see the promise of something that is being derailed by the author. I think the honest thing to do is to tell them they are screwing up so they can get better.
My two cents.
Saludos!
Hi dracognan - I agree with you, amigo. Yes, the honest thing is to tell the writer he or she is screwing up. However, given human nature, it is HOW you tell them they are screwing up that determines whether your critiques are heeded or not.
Of course, starting out a review by mentioning some positive aspect or two of the writer's work is always the best way to begin. I like to use humor myself and often point out my own similar shortcomings when I first began to write and post on the site. In other words, simply demonstrate a respect for that person and your wish to improve their work, not judge them.
True, some will never accept any criticism, primarily because they are here for warm and fuzzy, uncritical confirmation and not for improvement. If you get a negative reaction, though you have done your best as stated above, smile, say thanks for the feedback and move on to another writer who will be more inclined to benefit from your time, effort and insights.
Hang around, there are many good writers on this site!
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#105 09-10-2008 15:56:40
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I agree with Bob. BALANCE.
What do I mean? Let me show you, a writer's forte, right?
The plot is hard to follow. I thought your characters were very underdeveloped, they bored me and were very one-dimensional. The writing here seemed very choppy.
That's one way, here's another.
I think you have an interesting idea for you plot I liked, (fill in with something honest and positive) however I think you might be trying to do too much too quickly as it became hard to follow. I suggest(something specific towards fixing the problem you found)
I really liked (Character's name, followed by one or two traits you thought were well done) You might want to consider making him/her more well-rounded. If you (again something specific towards fixing the problem)
Then where you found choppy writing makes suggestions on how to smooth it out.
Being specific about what you liked and didn't like is IMO the most helpful sort of review.
The point is, there are at least two ways of telling the same truth. I recommend always erring on the side of kindness.
Best of luck to you!
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#106 06-02-2010 15:43:08
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Hi, I am just beginning today and your information and suggestions are very helpful.
Thanks, mistygreen
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#107 06-02-2010 17:35:46
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Here! Here!
Thank you Linda. Well said
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#108 06-23-2010 23:38:10
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Hi, L.P. I wish everyone would read this post. On Sunday I had someone attack my short story, accusing me of being very bitter and other things. Not to mention the person gave me a 2 rating. Well I became wary that others might feel the same way and deleted my story. But then I thought, why should I let them tell me how to write? So I reposted. My story's not a memoir because I don't think it would be possible to transfer to a peanut, though I'd like to sometimes.
For fun I changed the title of my fiction to "Memoir of a Peanut."
I guess I hit that reader's nerve.
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#109 06-24-2010 11:32:00
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Don't worry Mahgol, I've had a similar experience as well. It's not that the story I posted was bad, but the way I presented it was quote unquote "experimental" and apparently some reviewers didn't like it (why they would keep reading and take the time to review something they didn't like is beyond me).
Just keep your head high like I have and ignore those shitty reviews by shitty reviewers.
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#110 06-24-2010 11:58:40
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Mahgol wrote:
Hi, L.P. I wish everyone would read this post. On Sunday I had someone attack my short story, accusing me of being very bitter and other things. Not to mention the person gave me a 2 rating. Well I became wary that others might feel the same way and deleted my story. But then I thought, why should I let them tell me how to write? So I reposted. My story's not a memoir because I don't think it would be possible to transfer to a peanut, though I'd like to sometimes.
For fun I changed the title of my fiction to "Memoir of a Peanut."
I guess I hit that reader's nerve.
)
You may think it was a bad review - very well may be - but obviously, it made you think about what you had written. Food for thought is really what getting a review is all about; you take from it what you can/wish while ignoring the rest. When you get to that point, then you may consider yourself to have arrived at what learning is all about and you lose no sleep, waste no energy on what you might consider someone's ignorance. Just my opinion, which also includes the numbers being meaningless the way they are used. Good luck. Take care. Vern
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#111 06-24-2010 12:11:28
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Mahgol wrote:
Hi, L.P. I wish everyone would read this post. On Sunday I had someone attack my short story, accusing me of being very bitter and other things. Not to mention the person gave me a 2 rating. Well I became wary that others might feel the same way and deleted my story. But then I thought, why should I let them tell me how to write? So I reposted. My story's not a memoir because I don't think it would be possible to transfer to a peanut, though I'd like to sometimes.
For fun I changed the title of my fiction to "Memoir of a Peanut."
I guess I hit that reader's nerve.
)
Sounds like a peanut is just the shell you need to write in. You deleted your story because others might feel the same way about it? Why should you let 'them' tell you how to write? This is a workshop setting. Feedback is not what you're after? Good or bad? Your story doesn't need work? It's better than a 2? I guess I'll wait to read it in The New Yorker then. You transfer to a peanut at the end? You sure it's not a memoir? ![]()
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#112 06-24-2010 12:52:59
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R A Keen wrote:
dracognan wrote:
It is a (though) [tough] job to be objective when reviewing, it is tougher still when you see a glimmer of a promise in what, let's be sincere, you wouldn't read in any other place or site but here...The question for me its whether a writer will accept a th[or]ough review, one that will probably sound harsh, or callous but that is not in reality. Do we have to step lightly while we review a work that could be better by pointing out the myriad of problems that we see?...It doesn't mean we have to bash stories just for the heck of it, but if we see the promise of something that is being derailed by the author. I think the honest thing to do is to tell them they are screwing up so they can get better.
My two cents.
Saludos!Hi dracognan - I agree with you, amigo. Yes, the honest thing is to tell the writer he or she is screwing up. However, given human nature, it is HOW you tell them they are screwing up that determines whether your critiques are heeded or not.
Of course, starting out a review by mentioning some positive aspect or two of the writer's work is always the best way to begin. I like to use humor myself and often point out my own similar shortcomings when I first began to write and post on the site. In other words, simply demonstrate a respect for that person and your wish to improve their work, not judge them.
True, some will never accept any criticism, primarily because they are here for warm and fuzzy, uncritical confirmation and not for improvement. If you get a negative reaction, though you have done your best as stated above, smile, say thanks for the feedback and move on to another writer who will be more inclined to benefit from your time, effort and insights.
Hang around, there are many good writers on this site!
Ciao - R A Keen
A novel idea. ![]()
Mahgol, I really like your name.
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#113 07-16-2010 08:11:58
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I'm new to this site, but have to praise some of the reviewers who have taken such pains to give me a thorough review. I've not experienced a bad review (yet), and I'm sure it would sting, but I prefer to find the reviewer who, though good or bad, shows that they've read it, points out the shortcomings or good points. You know they've read it, and can usually tell by their words whether they know their business.
Thanks Sol, for this great website.
Dodie
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#114 09-19-2010 14:14:36
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Hey, I just read for my first review. Impressed overall, there are a zillion or so "bits" having to do with mundane matters like punctuation and pronoun reference. What to do? Personally, I'd appreciate "catches" in name of editing. Others (whom I don't know and who don't know me) . . . wish me luck! And no, I'm not saying who I am or whom I read! Ha!
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#115 09-19-2010 14:28:22
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Filliam wrote:
Hey, I just read for my first review. Impressed overall, there are a zillion or so "bits" having to do with mundane matters like punctuation and pronoun reference. What to do? Personally, I'd appreciate "catches" in name of editing. Others (whom I don't know and who don't know me) . . . wish me luck! And no, I'm not saying who I am or whom I read! Ha!
Bwa ha ha ha ha! I know who you are.
With someone I haven't reviewed before, I let them know I'm a nitter, try to remember to give comments on the good stuff (because I have an annoying tendency to assume they already know what's good - my bad), and then I nit away. At the end, I ask them to let me know if they'd prefer to receive a different type of review from me in the future.
Most are appreciative of the grammar/punctuation/structure stuff. Many people here have AMAZING imaginations, come up with characters and stories I could never hope to dream up, no matter what drugs I might take. But they need the nit help. Others are technical wizards, but need help with the story arc.
Me, I know my limitations. I'm best at nits. So I nit.
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#116 04-27-2012 23:11:27
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There were really people who you could hardly understand, and what annoying about them was that they will talk trash about you just because they didn't like what you wrote, well this should be the deal, criticize the literary piece but not the author,..
well, i guess you just can't please everyone, right?
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